This Thang Ain't Easy

Alright so boom…it’s been awhile since I’ve written about my dating life. I started this blog to discuss modern dating from a Christian perspective. Well ya girl is in a full blown relationship 😱 Yup that’s right. A. Full. Blown. Relationship…

While there is excitement about him, us, and our future…there is still so much that needs to be done. I am a person that believes that you can do a lot of work on yourself outside of a relationship. BUT as much as you work on yourself prior life and circumstances still happen. What do you when sudden deaths occur or miscommunication arise. I know that for myself I was so used to being alone that there are things that don’t occur to me. Sometimes I don’t realize I have a teammate! I don’t realize that he wants to hear about what I’m interested in or the mundane things too. It’s definitely a shift/change of mindset. For so long, I’ve only had to consider my own feelings and what I wanted. I didn't have to consider anyone else. Again it is a shift in mindset.

As he and I go deeper in our relationship, I’m learning that this thang ain’t easy! I know that when it comes to relationships everyone in them says that it isn’t easy. I didn’t go into the relationship thinking that things were going to be rainbows, sunshine, and cotton candy (and I don’t even like cotton candy). I can honestly say that this relationship is pushing me and growing me in ways that I didn’t expect. We’ve had our share of disagreements. We’ve had points where I have cried and he’s cried. I’m pissed and he’s pissed. Although the time has been short for us, I can say that we are in a place of seeking to understand each other.

While this thang ain’t easy, I believe that we are both committed to growing individually and together. For myself, I have started weekly therapy which has been SO helpful. I’m learning to trust in myself and my capacity. (I am using Betterhelp.com) I will write in a separate post about my therapy journey. I will keep you all updated as much as possible on the happenings over here on #teamelementary. Just know that this thang ain’t easy but I know it will be worth it. 🤎💕

Love, Life, Jesus

Evelyn Denise